Monday, May 18, 2015
MS. CRANKY WONDERS --- IS THERE AN AGE WHEN ONE’S LANGUAGE CHANGES?
All her life Ms. Cranky remembers older women calling her ‘hon’ and ‘dear’ and ‘sweetie,’ most especially waitresses named Lil or Gert. Cranky didn’t mind it, it was a nice part of life and she didn’t think much about it. Until lately --- when Ms. Cranky became one of ‘those people.’
There was no warning nor preparation and no one told her to do it. There was no instruction booklet or ceremony gently moving her into the world of the Lil’s and Gert’s of Cranky’s yesteryear.
But, slowly, Ms. Cranky began noticing those old familiar words creeping into her very own language, usually on goodbyes. “Bye, sweetie; okay hon, see you real soon…”
Did Ms. Cranky get older? --- Yes, of course, Ms. Cranky got older, and, seemingly, very quickly. But, did Ms. Cranky suddenly become a waitress in a highway diner with homemade coleslaw and heavy off-white coffee mugs? No she didn’t.
It took a while for Cranky to process this information and to even realize she was doing it. She’d hang up the phone and go, ‘Hmmm,’ did I just call my niece-in-law ‘sweetie’? Was that actually me saying ‘goodbye honey’ to my mentee? It was not thought out in the least but it was definitely happening.
Now, over a bit of time, Ms. Cranky doesn’t mind the change; she even thinks it’s sort of sweet (not ‘sweetie’). One day she simply realized her new speech had become a pattern, an ‘okay’ pattern that came with the passage of time --- maybe like lower-heeled softer shoes or needing eyeglasses or trying to decide to color your hair or not?
Ms. Cranky wonders your thoughts on this matter and also wonders if it happens in all cultures and what the names would be in Italy or Croatia or China? And, Ms. Cranky celebrates all the women who came before her and their most welcome terms of endearment. A term of endearment is always enjoyed.
See ya’ ‘round ‘dearies’!!!
Posted by ms. cranky at 11:29 AM